Lennon once sang “Instant Karma’s gonna get you…” For years, people
have said (usually when something bad happens in their lives), “Karma
got me – what did I do?”
Karma gets blamed very
easily for the bad things that happen in people’s lives but what about
the good things? What if situations are neither good nor bad – they
One of the theories of
Karma is that whatever you send out (energy, thoughts, ideas, etc)
comes back - if you do good deeds and think good thoughts, good will
come back to you. If something bad has happened, then you think
about all those things you have done to get this bad energy back. But
remember, everyone sees their experiences through their own minds and
their own filters so how can anything be universally known as good or
For example, say Brad
breaks up with Angelina. She would probably consider this breakup
bad. However, what if the relationship was not a healthy
relationship? What if was fraught with arguments, anxiety and all
around unhappiness? At the surface to her, their relationship ending
would be bad. But is it?
Let’s break down this
example further. Since Brad left the relationship, he is seen as bad
and Angelina is seen as good. Brad broke Angelina’s heart! He must be
wrong! Does one incident make someone good or bad?
But what if Brad’s
intention was to stop the hurt for both of them? His intention was to
break the cycle of hurt and to move forward into a healthier
relationship? Is Brad still going to receive bad karma? He is sending
out pain, yes, but he is also sending out the energy that he wants more
happiness for both of them.
Unraveling situations then becomes more difficult to say it is good or bad, doesn’t it?
Why not look at it as
things just are they way they are? Cycles start and stop, relationships
do the same, people are born and die - these are all natural cycles of
How we handle these cycles – that is what generates the karma. What do we take the situation presented to us?
Let’s go back to Brad and
Angelina. Angelina decides that she hates Brad, she throw all his
clothes out on the front lawn, writes all over the Brad’s car, calls
all of Brad’s friends and tells them everything that Brad said about
them and then call his job several times causing trouble. Is it
excusable for Angelina to act out because she is hurt? Is that Brad’s
karma to deal with her?
What if Angelina lets Brad
have space to pack his things, tell their friends when they call that
Brad has a new number and stops contact unless they have something that
has to be worked out with the kids. Angelina handles the situation
with grace and dignity and she work on healing herself. Isn’t this a
more positive way to handle the situation for her sanity and growth?
Now let’s be honest, we
handle situations probably somewhere in between the ranting and the
saint. But knowing this, by handling things with grace, dignity,
kindness, compassion, humor and love sends out much higher vibration
energy to the universe than hate, rage, sadness, anger, hurt and
despair. Remember, the energy that you show the universe is the energy
that the universe returns to you.
You have control over your karma by your day to day actions; don’t let it have control over you.
~Copyright 2010, Mary D'Alba (Spiritualitygirl)~
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