Things Aren't Always As Seem

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Saturday, July 25, 2009

Be careful rushing to judgment. You might just trip on your own stubbornness, hurt, whatever and fall flat on your face. I've done it. Here's a story:

I hadn't heard from a friend of mine in a while. I called, I e-mailed, nothing. It's like he dropped off the face of the earth.

So instead of thinking something was wrong, I figured he just stopped talking to me. I sent him a curt and snippy e-mail saying something like "Okay, you know I'm trying to get in touch with you. You're not responding. Fine. Call me when you're ready, if ever."

And I didn't hear from him for weeks.

I went through all these different scenarios of what I could have done to get him to stop talking to me. Did I say something stupid? Did we have a snip fest that I can't remember? Or was it his fault - ah, that was it. It was HIS fault. Right!

Um, well, imagine how stupid I felt when I got an e-mail saying that he had a herniated disk and that he had to have surgery. So he wasn't blowing me off, he was just injured and recovering.

I felt like a complete heel. Actually, more than that but this is a family friendly article.

When I finally talked to him, it turns out that he just didn't tell me because he didn't want to worry or burden me. Of course, that's crazy, I said, I worried nonetheless! Though, how could he know that? I zapped him in cyberspace.

So after we had a good laugh at how we both didn't communicate well, I wondered about things that I rushed to judgment about and how I probably lost out on things because I didn't have an open mind. It made me realize, after I almost lost my friend, that I have to have an open mind if someone isn't returning calls or someone is snippy.

There are always things behind the scenes that I may or may not know about. Keeping an open mind will help me keep some peace and kindness around the situation.

I find it hard to ride the ebb and flow of life. Because someone doesn't e-mail or call doesn't mean that they are out of my life forever. It means they could be floating out for a little while and then coming back in. And if someone does float out forever, then that's okay. I'm different for having known them.

Remember - things aren't always what they seem. Keeping an open mind can keep an open heart.

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