Musings Of Mary (Blog)

The Work

February 3, 2012

I had dinner with my cousin the other night.  It was so nice to catch up with her.  We have a wonderful relationship where we can talk, laugh and cry about anything.

Somewhere in our conversation, we started talking about the difference between jobs and our work.  Most people have a job.  This is something that we need to have to have to pay the bills.  It can be good or bad.  It could even be something we could be very good at day-to-day but chances are it's not what we really want to be doing for at least 8 hours a day.

Then there is our "work".  It's our mission in life.  Our work is what we have a passion for doing, what we dream of if "we had all the money in the world" and what we feel that we are being pulled or called to do.  It could be helping others, it could be selling hot dogs or it could be being a great mom or dad.  It could be anything that makes us feel like we've settled into our own unique spot in the world.

I know many people, though, who can't imagine doing their work or it being a huge part of their life.  I notice this with my clients when they tell me they are miserable at their job.  I'll say, "Well, what would you want to be doing?”  Many times people will tell me a well thought out dream but at the end say "But I can't make any money at that.”  

But what if that dream is the work?  How do we deny that?   It is the difference between having to do it and wanting to do it.  I'm not saying to quit a stable source of income with nothing building on the other side.  But then the question is - how do we get there?

It starts with building a bridge so we can cross over to the side of where we want to do.   Maybe one piece of the bridge is taking a class, maybe another piece is creating a plan or timeline, maybe yet another piece is finding someone who can be a mentor or guide through the process - a bridge can't be built with one piece of wood or stone.  It takes many materials and hard work to pull it together.  And it may take longer if you're working alone or have to stop production for a little while. 

Building this bridge from one side to the other may be a long process or it may happen overnight.   However, the most important thing when building this bridge is to know that you have to keep going and believe it will get done.  Without that, nothing else will matter.

The lessons or experiences that we go through help us learn our path and fine tune our work.  It may not be a straight path but at least we have found that road we are can travel.  If we take a detour, it's okay.  We will be guided back to the path, especially if we are denying it.  There is no denying who we are.

So what is our work?  There is something inside each and every one of us that tells us what it is.  If we deny it, we deny our core.  Instead of saying "What if" say "Why Not".  Our destiny and our work are in our hands.

 ~Copyright 2011-2012, Mary D'Alba, Spiritualitygirl~

 

The Wheel

February 2, 2012

The Wheel will turn 

it is inevitable 

it will bring you up 

and push you down

The Wheel of Change 

it's at the core of our lives 

wait for the spin 

it comes back around again

Part of the life's cycle 

is to move through the joy and pain 

the wheel may slow down 

but it will never stop, never fear

There may be times

when the Wheel doesn't move fast enough 

you wonder when it will turn 

you wonder why you're stuck 

But when things seem to be at...


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The Burning

February 1, 2012

The Burning.
It started from a spark 
that I didn’t know existed
moving through quickly, 
even painfully
as I grieved a loss
I wasn’t quite sure of at that moment
but the damage was done
The Burning.
It all seems so clear
that what was had is lost
when it is crisp and distorted
as it fades away into something new
something no longer recognizable
The Burning.
I try to cling to it 
but it becomes too hot to hold
and I see it flying away from fingertips
It no longer has a form
it just has re...


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I Get Knocked Down

January 31, 2012

I get knocked down.

I am shocked, stunned,

my hands are bruised,

but I struggle to my feet.

 

I get knocked down.

I am hurt, crying,

my body is weary,

but I claw my way back.

 

I get knocked down.

I am angry, gritting my teeth,

my back is strained,

but I pull myself up.

 

I get knocked down.

I am defensive, ready to fight,

my legs are sore,

but I won't stay down.

 

I get knocked down.

I am peaceful, graceful,

my body is solid,

and I rise to my strength.

 

I get knocked down

but nothing will k...


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I AM

January 30, 2012

Those two little words - I AM.  We use them many time to start a sentence.  "I am tired.", "I am cold", "I am happy".   Those two words at the start of the sentence gives us lots of different ways to identify and express ourselves.  Do we always think about those words that come after "I AM"?  Let's look at how those words impact us at some of our core beliefs and how being more positive in our "I AM" statements will benefit us in the long run.

Those words I AM make a declaration.  It's a po...


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On A Detour

January 29, 2012

I lost my way, I think.

Where am I?  How did I get here?

This wasn't the plan I had.

I see the road, it looks familiar

but it's not the road I chose.

I don't understand why I have to go this way.

All of a sudden, I turned and I was here.

Looking at a landscape

and seeing only the flaws.


It is going to take forever to get back, I think.

I've lost my way, I can't see an easy turn.

Standing, waiting for someone to come save me.

They will right? 

Even thought my dreams got in the way of realit...


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In the Wings of an Angel

January 27, 2012

As she rests
 
she lies quietly

But her mind is nothing but quiet

Those thoughts race

She worries, anticipates,

thinks about what is coming up next

Before tomorrow comes

It’s an exercise in mental jumping jacks

And while she thinks she is resting

she is exhausted but asking for a sign

Then she feels a gentleness

A softness nothing like of earth

the feathers wrap her like a blanket

of warmth and love

Holding her, comforting her

letting her rest, soothing her mind

whispers that "...


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Opportunities

January 26, 2012

I was watching one of my favorite movies Evan Almighty tonight and on top of being a really funny movie (Steve Carrell with a Noah hair cut and beard - c'mon!), I loved one of the thoughts presented in the movie.

Evan's wife, Joan, had taken a break from Evan because it seemed that he had gone loopy.  While traveling to her mother's house to stay for a while, Joan decides to get dinner.  While she is sitting in a restaurant having dinner on the TV comes John Stewart make fun of Evan. People ...


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Always Do Your Best

January 9, 2012

My favorite of the Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz is “Always Do Your Best”.   This agreement might be one of the toughest ones to follow because we can beat ourselves up when we feel like we don’t do our best.  Or if we do our best but then don’t get the result, we feel like we failed.

“Always Doing Your Best” means to work to the highest capacity.  Striving for the ultimate results is what we’re conditioned to in life.  However, have we considered that each day our capacity ...


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Let Love Rule

January 5, 2012
Love one another as I have loved you.
Love me as I love you.
Love you as I love me.
Love, love, love. 
 
Love is not to be judged.
Love is not to be defined.
Love is not to be bought or sold.
Love is just sublime.
 
Love is the cure,
Love is the high,
Love is for you and me,
Love lives on after you die.
 
Beyond the physical,
beyond the mental, 
in touch with the spiritual,
love permeates it all.
 
Love without attachments,
let go when it has to be,
Love without boundaries,
it can truly set you fre...

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