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The Happiness Key

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Thursday, January 28, 2016, In : Articles 

I love looking at A Course in Miracles to gain insight from the lessons that I can apply to my day to day life.  One of the lessons from the Course says "Forgiveness is the key to happiness."  (Lesson 121)


That made me pause.  I know right now there are people that I am struggling to forgive.  There are days that I can forgive an action or a person who did me wrong.  But then there are times, I just can't do it.  I'm holding on to it, letting it grow and fester.  


This non-forgiveness, if I had...


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The Lies We Tell Ourselves

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Saturday, March 21, 2015, In : Articles 
I was talking to one of my clients about a certain goal she wants to achieve.  She is thinking about going back to school but there are a lot of things that seem to be standing in her way - her age, her desire to go, family pressures - she just wasn't sure which way to go.   
 
She said to me "So these are my beliefs and thoughts about it."  My response, " Well, those things we tell ourselves - we wouldn't lie to ourselves, would we?"
 
We all have our beliefs and thoughts about ourselves.  And e...

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It Isn't Over

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Wednesday, March 4, 2015, In : Articles 

I was having dinner with a friend tonight and we were talking about goals that we have - big ideas, big dreams.  In the midst of talking and debating if we could accomplish our respective goals, she said "Hey, it isn't over until they put us in the ground."   

This made me pause.  She was right.  Our lives, while finite and the "deadline" is unknown, are ours to shape and experience, no matter what the age.

It seems as we get older, we get more scared, cynical, complacent and downright grumpy....


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The Past, Present, Future

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Saturday, February 28, 2015, In : Articles 
A friend of mine and I were discussing how he likes to live in the past.  It's been troublesome to him over the 25 years I've known him and he seems to reflect on and regurgitating situations over and over again, reliving tough details and hurts.  
 
After a particularly intense conversation, he said to me, "I don't know why I do this.  I wish I could understand it."  So I said, "Well, what do you think it is - other than being a Cancer?"
 
As we talked, we came to the conclusion that the past, w...

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Try, Just A Little

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Friday, February 27, 2015, In : Articles 

Recently I had a client come to me about some problems in her life.  She felt things were stagnant, rough and she didn't see a direction.

Part of my job is to flush out solutions.  "What about this?"  I said.  "Well...." she countered with reasons as to why it wouldn't work.  "Okay, how about that?"  I countered.  "Well...." more reasons why it wouldn't work.

Now, I'm all about being realistic about what we're capable of but I also am one who believes we have to push past boundaries to create c...


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Trust

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Monday, February 23, 2015, In : Articles 
I was talking to a friend of mine tonight.  He went through a pretty bad breakup with another friend of mine.  It's been a tough time for both of them.   I'm grateful I've been able to keep them both in my life.
 
In this discussion with my friend, we were talking about trust.  One of the reasons why we have stayed friends is because he is able to talk to me about his life and I keep it just to me.  He was saying  how hard that was to find.
 
In yesterday's musing, I talked about rumors and gossi...

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I Wish

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Thursday, February 19, 2015, In : Articles 
I wish people could see how amazing they are.
 
I wish people didn't believe the lies they tell themselves.
 
I wish people could see that past mistakes don't predict or have to influence the future.
 
I wish people know the pain they have is real and certainly ok to get over whenever the hell they want.
 
I wish people would respond to weakness (including their own) with compassion.
 
I wish people would love without fear and give it as freely as criticism and ridicule.
 
I wish people mended fences, re...

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Musing on the Musing

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Sunday, February 15, 2015, In : Articles 
I love to write for you, dear readers.  "Mary's Musing" has been one of my joys throughout the past several years.   I appreciate you reading them.
 
Lately, thought, I've run into a bit of writers block.  One of the worst things in the world to me.  I hate sitting here, staring at a blank screen thinking, "I've got nothin'."  Or worse, starting a musing and then scraping it because it just doesn't feel right.
 
I do my best to give you the best of my thoughts and what I observe in the world.  Bu...

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I'm Fine?

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Tuesday, February 10, 2015, In : Articles 
I was walking up the stairs to my office and my psychic development student was waiting for me.  I looked up and saw her face - she looked so sad.
 
"How are you, sweetie?"  I said.
 
She looked at me and said "Doing fine!"
 
I paused.  She smiled and said, "Well, no, I'm not, but that's what everyone says, right?"
 
And she's right.  When we ask someone how he or she is doing, that person usually says "I'm fine."  It's a common response, one we never think about or really acknowledge.
 
We're conditio...

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Love: The Death Defier

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Monday, February 9, 2015, In : Articles 
I was bit by the photography bug a couple of years ago.  I took the plunge and invested in a nice beginners camera, the Canon Rebel T3i.  I've stumbled around a bit but am getting the hang of shooting manually and I've gotten some amazing shots.
 
In November, I went on vacation to New Orleans.  Of course I had to bring the camera.  The city is so rich with photography opportunities there was no way I couldn't leave it behind.  
 
While I was there, I visited several cemeteries.  One of the ones ...

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Weathering the Storm

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Wednesday, February 4, 2015, In : Articles 
I am born and bred in Boston.  It's my favorite place to be and, while I love to travel, I always love to see the dirty water of the Boston Harbor when I fly home.  
 
As you might know, we currently are getting pummeled by Mother Nature.  Currently, we have gotten more snow than we got in the historic storm of the Blizzard of '78.  More is due to come - two more storms are in the forecast in less than a week.
 
The snow makes us grumpy.  It's cold, we have to shovel, it makes us wet and soggy an...

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The Work

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Friday, January 23, 2015, In : Articles 

I had dinner with my cousin the other night.  It was so nice to catch up with her.  We have a wonderful relationship where we can talk, laugh and cry about anything.

Somewhere in our conversation, we started talking about the difference between jobs and our work.  Most people have a job.  This is something that we need to have to have to pay the bills.  It can be good or bad.  It could even be something we could be very good at day-to-day but chances are it's not what we really want to be do...


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If I was just....

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Sunday, June 8, 2014, In : Articles 

I recently did a reading for someone who is one of my favorite clients.  She's fun, outgoing and has a lot going for her.  The place she feels she is lacking is in a relationship so the last couple of readings we've had is around that topic.

I tuned into the most recent guy she had gone out on a date with and he didn't seem like he was for her.   He wasn't a dysfunctional person or a person with a ton of baggage, he just wasn't for her.

Then I heard something from Spirit that seemed very im...


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Mercury Retrograde - June 7 to July 1

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Sunday, June 8, 2014, In : Articles 

It’s that time of year, Mercury is going Retrograde. From June 7th to July 1st get ready to double check your communications and mechanical items because Mercury Retrograde is known to influence them in a challenging way.

Mercury is going Retrograde in Cancer during this time. If you know your Natal Chart, watch where Mercury moves during that time. Where it is in your chart will be activated by this transit.

If you don’t know your Mercury in your Natal Chart, never fear. Here are the g...


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The Master

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Friday, June 6, 2014, In : Articles 

I was having a discussion with a friend about emotions and handling stress that comes up on a day to day basis.   I've accepted stress is part of my life but I also realize it's my choice how to handle it.
 
I said to him, "Part of my journey is to be the Master of me, the Master of my emotions.  I am in control of how I handle what comes up in front of me."
 
This statement made me pause - what is the meaning of being a Master?  A Master is someone that is an expert and has a high level of s...


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The "Shoulds"

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Friday, June 6, 2014, In : Articles 

I love how hard we can be on ourselves. I've had many a client say "I should be over him/her, I should be further in life, I should be..."
 
The "shoulds" mean nothing.  It's a discussion of possibilities that could have happened and it's used a tool to beat ourselves up for what we haven't accomplished or overcome.
 
So what if you aren't exactly where you want to be?  So what if you haven't let go of all your feelings about someone or something?  So what?  Where you are right now is just th...


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Don't Worry

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Wednesday, January 8, 2014, In : Articles 

One of the most common phrases I say during a reading is "Don't worry." 

 

Then I get the look.  A look that usually says "Are you kidding me?" 

 

I know it's easy to say that phrase.  Because at that point, I'm not in that situation to worry about it.  It's also a pretty easy phrase to throw out there, almost as easy as "Good Morning". 

 

Instead of worrying, what if we transformed worry into something different?  What if it turns into something  much more positive?  Is it possible? 

 

While I know ...


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Stay on the Right Road

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Wednesday, January 8, 2014, In : Articles 

Recently I did a reading for a client fresh out of college.  She wasn't quite sure what she wanted to do for a career and was thinking of going back to school.  

 

Our conversation:

 

Her:  "I'm going back to school to become a Vet Tech.  What do the cards tell me?"

 

Me:  "That this isn't the right move.  You already know what you want to do - why aren't you doing that?"

 

Her:  "Well, I want to open my own animal shelter.   I work for one now but I don't know.  A Vet Tech seems more practical...."

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Make it Work

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Friday, January 3, 2014, In : Articles 
 I'm a huge fan of Project Runway.  (No, I'm not ashamed to admit that.)  I love watching materials being transformed into amazing designs.  The creativity of the designers inspires me to believe anything can be made out of nothing with some thought and an open mind.
 
My favorite cast member on Project Runway is Tim Gunn, the Mentor.  He takes time to consult with the designers about their work while it is in process.  Gunn can guide them about the trends and what the judges will like or disli...
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Seize the Moment

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Thursday, January 2, 2014, In : Articles 
I went to the Red Sox World Series Game 2 in October.  Being around Fenway when the Red Sox are in the Championship brings fanatic to a whole new level.  People decked out in all red, wearing World Series shirts from 2004 and 2007 and just grinning from ear to ear.  I had my Canon camera on me and was snapping pictures happily.
 
After taking some pictures of the people and sites on Yawkey Way, we made our way inside Gate D of Fenway Park.  The elevators are to the right inside Gate D and strai...
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The Power of Prayer

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Saturday, September 7, 2013, In : Articles 
My Father has been battling Mesothelioma for the past several months.  October will be one year since he's been diagnosed and he's still fighting strong.
 
I am always amazed at the consideration of others when they ask, "Hey, how is your Dad doing?"  It warms me to know they are thinking of him. 
 
Lately, I've had people say to me, "I'll say a prayer for him, is that okay?"  
 
My reply is, "Of course!!  I'll take any prayers we can get."
 
So what is prayer?  What does it really mean?
 
Prayer is so...
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"They Don't Call It Work for Nothin'."

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Wednesday, September 4, 2013, In : Articles 

I was lamenting to a friend of mine recently about how hard things seem to be lately, not just for myself but for other people. I asked him, "Why is it like this? Why are so many people overwhelmed? I mean, when do we get a break?"

 

He said to me, "These experiences make us stronger and help us build character. We have to go through things in order to help others. It's not Spiritual play; They don't call it Spiritual Work for nothin'."

 

I hated to admit to him that he was right but in my eyes, ...


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Fueling My Fire With Words

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Sunday, January 27, 2013, In : Articles 

With 2013 here, I am working on doing things in my life differently.  No resolutions, just making improvements that I think need to be made.

 

One of my improvements is to be more careful of my words.  I speaks before I think.   I like to blame in on the Sagittarius in me - we're known to be blunt.  However, that doesn't mean it has to stay that way, though it would be much easier to keep it and blame it on my astrological sign.

 

It's funny how when you make a decision, a situation will ...


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Morning Pages Realizations

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Sunday, January 27, 2013, In : Articles 

I have been looking for ways to be inspired and make changes in 2013.  One of the things that came up as a way to tap into inspiration was working through the book "The Artist's Way" by Julia Cameron.  It's a book to help unleash creativity and since I have felt blah in that realm, I have been working the book with some friends.

 

Once of the suggestions of the book is to write "Morning Pages".  It says to get up in the morning, grab your coffee or tea and do a mind dump of writing for thre...


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Enjoy the Silence

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Sunday, January 27, 2013, In : Articles 

Sometimes we say things that may hurt each other.  It may not be intentional but we feel the need to say what's on our mind at the given moment.  Is it necessary to tell someone what we think about them or what they're doing, especially if they haven't asked?

 

There are times I have to bite my tongue because, even though I have an opinion, it's not my place to put my thoughts on someone else.   It's not about me, it's about them and what they need.

 

Honesty is important but there comes ...


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Forgiveness

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Sunday, January 27, 2013, In : Articles 

I notice some of the most passionate comments I get are on quotes on forgiveness.  The common theme is that it's hard to forgive others because the person hurt the commenter very bad.  "There is no way I can forgive (my ex, my family, my boss, etc)."

 

This is completely understandable.  How can we possibly forgive someone that has done incredible hurt to us?   It seems counter-productive to what we should do, which is tear the person down and hurt them millions of times worse than they hur...


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Strength

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Sunday, January 27, 2013, In : Articles 

Strength.  It's an interesting word.  Sometimes when I hear this word, it conjures up the image of a body builder who can lift practically anything.  There is also another kind of strength and I think this is the one that is harder to find but stronger than the best bodybuilder.

 

It's the strength we have inside of us to handle situations that come our way.   We never know what we are capable of until we are faced with it but we surprise ourselves with the will to tackle what we need to ha...


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Turn Up The Positive Volume

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Sunday, January 27, 2013, In : Articles 

As I was talking to a friend the other night, she seemed to be going through a hard time.  She was saying all kinds of negative things about herself.  I said to her, "There are plenty of people in line ready to beat you up - why do you want to be at the front of the line?"

When we go throughout our day, we do all kinds of things.  We get ready to leave the house, we design projects, we interact with all kinds of people, we do work, we drop the ball, we praise, we hurt - it's endless.

If yo...


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Where did my creativity go?

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Tuesday, November 27, 2012, In : Articles 

I did a reading the other night for one of my regular clients.  She is a talented, smart and beautiful woman with the usual questions.  There was one, at the end, I don't usually hear.

She said, "Mar, my creativity is totally dead.  What can I do to get it back?" 

I gave her some suggestions that Spirit gave to me and then I also said, "You need to be inspired.  You need to do something that will touch your soul and make you smile."

This happens to me every once in a while.  I get writer...


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Don't Worry?

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Monday, November 26, 2012, In : Articles 

One of the most common phrases I say during a reading is "Don't worry."

Then I get the look.  A look that usually says "Are you kidding me?"

I know it's easy to say that phrase.  Because at that point, I'm not in that situation to worry about it.  It's also a pretty easy phrase to throw out there, almost as easy as "Good Morning".

Instead of worrying, what if we transformed worry into something different?  What if it turns into something much more positive?  Is it possible?

While I know w...


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The Hermit Times

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Tuesday, November 13, 2012, In : Articles 

This time of year usually makes me miss summer and the longer days.   I look forward to the Winter Solstice for us to gain a minute of light everyday.   With the sun setting around 4:30 in the afternoon and our nights getting longer, I think about how the darkness can affect us.  And by darkness, I don't mean anything that is evil or sinister.  It is actually an opportunity to look at things differently because our sight and reactions must be different when the stillness arrives.

There is ...


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The Ripples of Our Decisions

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Monday, November 12, 2012, In : Articles 

One of my favorite movies is "Wanted" starring Angelina Jolie.  It's an action movie, very heavy on the action aspects.  It shows the transformation of one character, Wesley, as his life gets turned upside down when he learns, and ultimately embraces, who he truly is.  

 

There is a line from that movie that always sticks with me.   In explaining why Fox (Angelina Jolie) joins "The Fraternity" of Assassins, she says to Wesley, "We don't know how far the ripples of our decisions go."  

 

We think ...


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The Crossroads

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Sunday, November 11, 2012, In : Articles 

Driving has been a different experience for me lately.  I've been noticing a lot more instead of just having tunnel vision to my destination.  Taking a look around while waiting at a stop light can be quite eye opening.

 

As I was driving today, I pulled up to a four way intersection - the crossroads - and settled at the light.  I saw someone about to take a left and then, at the last minute, she decided to go straight.  I could see her brow squiggle, trying to figure out the best route to go. ...


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We Know More Than We Think

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Thursday, June 7, 2012, In : Articles 

We are amazing people who can handle an amazing amount of information.  Our brains are built to sort, collect, categorize and, if necessary, discard information. 

 

There are times that we don't realize what we know.  For example, I was having a discussion with someone about her knowledge of tarot cards.  She told me that she didn't really know them well and she especially didn't know how to do multiple card readings.

 

So while we were talking, I asked gave her two cards and asked her t...


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Being Grateful

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Tuesday, June 5, 2012, In : Articles 

I have started looking back at the teachings of The Secret and one of the things I like was the concept of being grateful.

No matter what is going wrong, no matter what is happening, the theory is to be grateful for everything in your life, even the hard lessons.  

The thought is that being grateful will help you see what you already have in your life.  It shows you how abundant you really are.  It's not just material things but also your relationships, your talents and your gifts.

There h...


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Memorial Day - Gratitude

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Monday, May 28, 2012, In : Articles 

The last Monday in May is the United States Memorial Day.  Memorial Day is a day to remember those who passed while serving in the United States Armed Forces.

 


On this Memorial Day, I'd like to express my gratitude to all those who have served in any capacity in the Armed Forces.  Your pride in our country, bravery in the face of fear and dedication to citizens of the United States shows the best of human qualities.  You embraced and embodied them during the scariest and most stressful, danger...


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I'm fine?

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Sunday, May 20, 2012, In : Articles 

I was walking up the stairs to my office and my psychic development student was waiting for me.  I looked up and saw her face - she looked so sad.

"How are you, sweetie?"  I said.

She looked at me and said "Doing fine!"

I paused.  She smiled and said, "Well, no, I'm not, but that's what everyone says, right?"

And she's right.  When we ask someone how he or she is doing, that person usually says "I'm fine."  It's a common response, one we never think about or really acknowledge.

We're con...


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The Master

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Friday, May 18, 2012, In : Articles 

I was having a discussion with a friend about emotions and handling stress that comes up on a day to day basis.   I've accepted stress is part of my life but I also realize it's my choice how to handle it.


I said to him, "Part of my journey is to be the Master of me, the Master of my emotions.  I am in control of how I handle what comes up in front of me."


This statement made me pause - what is the meaning of being a Master?  A Master is someone that is an expert and has a high level of ski...


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The Work

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Friday, February 3, 2012, In : Articles 

I had dinner with my cousin the other night.  It was so nice to catch up with her.  We have a wonderful relationship where we can talk, laugh and cry about anything.

Somewhere in our conversation, we started talking about the difference between jobs and our work.  Most people have a job.  This is something that we need to have to have to pay the bills.  It can be good or bad.  It could even be something we could be very good at day-to-day but chances are it's not what we really want to be do...


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I Get Knocked Down

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Tuesday, January 31, 2012, In : Articles 

I get knocked down.

I am shocked, stunned,

my hands are bruised,

but I struggle to my feet.

 

I get knocked down.

I am hurt, crying,

my body is weary,

but I claw my way back.

 

I get knocked down.

I am angry, gritting my teeth,

my back is strained,

but I pull myself up.

 

I get knocked down.

I am defensive, ready to fight,

my legs are sore,

but I won't stay down.

 

I get knocked down.

I am peaceful, graceful,

my body is solid,

and I rise to my strength.

 

I get knocked down

but nothing will k...


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I AM

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Monday, January 30, 2012, In : Articles 

Those two little words - I AM.  We use them many time to start a sentence.  "I am tired.", "I am cold", "I am happy".   Those two words at the start of the sentence gives us lots of different ways to identify and express ourselves.  Do we always think about those words that come after "I AM"?  Let's look at how those words impact us at some of our core beliefs and how being more positive in our "I AM" statements will benefit us in the long run.

Those words I AM make a declaration.  It's a po...


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Opportunities

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Thursday, January 26, 2012, In : Articles 

I was watching one of my favorite movies Evan Almighty tonight and on top of being a really funny movie (Steve Carrell with a Noah hair cut and beard - c'mon!), I loved one of the thoughts presented in the movie.

Evan's wife, Joan, had taken a break from Evan because it seemed that he had gone loopy.  While traveling to her mother's house to stay for a while, Joan decides to get dinner.  While she is sitting in a restaurant having dinner on the TV comes John Stewart make fun of Evan. People ...


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Always Do Your Best

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Monday, January 9, 2012, In : Articles 

My favorite of the Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz is “Always Do Your Best”.   This agreement might be one of the toughest ones to follow because we can beat ourselves up when we feel like we don’t do our best.  Or if we do our best but then don’t get the result, we feel like we failed.

“Always Doing Your Best” means to work to the highest capacity.  Striving for the ultimate results is what we’re conditioned to in life.  However, have we considered that each day our capacity ...


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Broken Bridges

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Wednesday, January 4, 2012, In : Articles 
We've all heard the term "Burning Bridges".  When I happen to think of it, I think of a long wooden bridge between two cliffs that goes up in a huge dramatic puff of smoke.  When the smoke clears, the two people on either side can finally see each other.  It's a clear sign something is over because there is no way to cross to each other anymore.  The bridge and the relationship has burned to a crisp.
 
I happened to be talking to someone the other day and instead of saying "burning the bri...

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Can I? I can.

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Monday, January 2, 2012, In : Articles 

I was doing a reading with a client that has been going through a lot of changes recently.  The "she has a lot on her plate" phrase wouldn't even begin to cover what she was dealing with this past year and what's coming up for her.

As we were talking about the new exciting (but to her scary) challenges and changes that are coming up for her, she said, "I ask myself all the time, 'Can I do this?'."

I said to her, "Instead of saying 'Can I do this?’ tell yourself  'I can do this.'  Just swi...


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Remembering Your Dreams

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Tuesday, December 6, 2011, In : Articles 

~I've been getting a lot of questions on dreams lately so I'm republishing this article to help people work their dreams.  There is some great information in your dreams so pay attention.  Enjoy!~


People want to remember their dreams - is there prophecy there?  Will I get a message?  Maybe a deceased loved one will come and speak with me?

 

All of the above are possible but you need some tools to help.  Here's some suggestions:

 

First, know that dream interpretation is successful when the person ...


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It's All About Balance

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Tuesday, August 16, 2011, In : Articles 
However, to do all that, it takes constant effort.  I can't think of how many times I've wondered why there aren't more hours in the day or if could I get through the next day with little sleep.

We are busy people these days, aren't we?  We have so much on our plates - errands to run, work to do, family to support, work out, tasks to finish - personal, professional.  Sure, we can check all those things off our lists.  We accomplish so much all the time.
 
But what about the pace of always being ...

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Bye, Bye Ego

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Sunday, August 14, 2011, In : Articles 
Has there been a time in your life that you decided to do something different?  Finally!  You know what you want to do with your life!
 
And then all of a sudden -  all that fear, the doubts, the past, the things you “must do” - hold you back.  “That idea is crazy”, “Why would you do something so silly?” for example, those are the voices that tug at you, sometimes not so softly, to stop you.  And many times, they do.
 
What is all the muck that comes into your life to stop you from wh...

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Design Your Day

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Saturday, August 13, 2011, In : Articles 

I was thinking about the concept of creation and how creative we really are, whether or not we think so.  I was watching one of those competition reality shows (Project Runway) where there was a grand prize at the end, after many creations and challenges.  The designers have to be judged weekly on brand new creations and ride the highs and lows as they work through the good and bad times.

 

As I was thinking about it, I was wondering what life would be like if we created from scratch everyday, ...


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Older and Wiser

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Wednesday, August 3, 2011, In : Articles 
~One from the archives.  Enjoy!~
 
Today, a very good friend of mine started the journey to finish her second college degree.  She walked back into a classroom after several years and is starting the first of a two semester journey to this degree.  I'm really proud that she decided, in her early 40s, to finish what she started over 10 years ago.
 
The reason why I mention her age is significant.  She said to me, "Mary, I was looking around and seeing the young faces - some as young as 17!  It mad...

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Remembering Your Dreams

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Tuesday, August 2, 2011, In : Articles 
~I've been getting a lot of questions on dreams lately so I'm republishing this article to help people work their dreams.  There is some great information in your dreams so pay attention.  Enjoy!~
 
People want to remember their dreams - is there prophecy there?  Will I get a message?  Maybe a deceased loved one will come and speak with me?
 
All of the above are possible but you need some tools to help.  Here's some suggestions:
 
First, know that dream interpretation is successful when the person...

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Tick Tock

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Monday, August 1, 2011, In : Articles 

I happened to be watching "LA Ink" the other night with Kat Von D.  She did a tattoo on a woman named "Miss Claire".  It was a pretty interesting tattoo - a pocket watch with the time "Thirteen O’clock".  The reason why Miss Claire did this tattoo was because she wanted it to represent that fact that she had wasted a lot of time waiting to do what she wanted to do in life.  She kept saying "once I did this, I could do that".  And finally, she realized that she was wasting time and it was ti...


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Let's Take A Drive

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Sunday, July 31, 2011, In : Articles 
I was driving along with my mom today, heading to the mall to get our nails done.  We happened to take a cut through to avoid the highway and I passed by an area that brought back a memory.   Bear with me as I tell this story.
 
When I was 16 and on my second to last driving lesson, I took a right at the corner of a busy intersection in Malden, MA.  I was promptly greeted by a cruiser flying head on towards me.  
 
 
I hit the break the same time as the driving instructor did.  He took the wheel f...

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Strength

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Saturday, July 30, 2011, In : Articles 
Strength.  It's an interesting word.  Sometimes when I hear this word, it conjures up the image of a body builder who can lift practically anything.  There is also another kind of strength and I think this is the one that is harder to find but stronger than the best bodybuilder.
 
It's the strength we have inside of us to handle situations that come our way.   We never know what we are capable of until we are faced with it but we surprise ourselves with will to tackle what we need to handle, no...

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What's Going On In There?

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Friday, July 29, 2011, In : Articles 

Have you ever wondered what your purpose is?  Why am I here?  Well, a lot of that information is with you.  No one can tell you - you have to be connected with what's going on within you to bring it out.


With all the choices you've made, and all the sadness and joys you've felt, with all the craziness and calm, somewhere inside you, there are goals and dreams just waiting to be realized.

Know what with each choice you make lessons can be learned and challenges can be overcome.  A clear plan wil...


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Just Ask

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Thursday, July 28, 2011, In : Articles 

I did a reading today with a woman who is going through a lot.  She's a mom so, of course, most of her reading focused on her children.  They are going through a hard time - some medical issues, trying to find jobs, moving out on their own - lots of different things at once. 

She is someone who prays a lot but one of the things she said to me made me stop for a moment.

"Other people have so many bigger problems than I do.  I am blessed with a lot.  I feel guilty asking God to help me with m...


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Healer, Heal Thyself

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Wednesday, July 27, 2011, In : Articles 
~Note:  I republish this article from time to time to remind us that we have to take care of ourselves, not just other people.  Enjoy!~
 
I have a really good friend of mine who has been going through substance abuse issues for the twelve years that I’ve known him. It’s been one drama after another: between homelessness, fights, hospital visits, jail, several rehabs and conversations where I can’t even understand what he’s saying to me because he’s so drunk. It’s painful for me to w...

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Take Control of your Karma

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Sunday, July 24, 2011, In : Articles 
One of my favorite cards in my tarot deck is the Wheel of Fortune.  It is the one of the Major Arcana cards, which means it is a card that indicates an important life event.  It is usually depicted as a wheel spinning around.  The Wheel of Fortune means the destiny wheel is constantly turning and, if we don’t like what is happening, we should wait because change will come around.
 
Many people think Karma is cause and effect.  For example, if I do something “good”, good comes back to me. ...

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The Comfortable Grip of Fear

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Wednesday, July 20, 2011, In : Articles 

There is so much going on in the world today.  I was having a discussion with a friend of mine about the future, what's happening with the economy and life in general.  

I said to her, "I can see it getting better but people have to let go of the comfortable grip of fear."

The comfortable grip of fear?  I paused after I said that to her.  For some people, the fear that is out there in the media, the economy, even what is created in their own minds, is very comfortable.

I wondered how that ...


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Ch-Ch-Ch-Ch-Changes

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Monday, July 18, 2011, In : Articles 

We're not good with change as humans.  We like things to be stable and when the unknown gets thrown into the mix, we struggle to find the solid ground again.

This is understandable.  We work so hard to get what we have, we want to keep our families in the lifestyle they are used to and we have our routine down pat.   So when things start shifting, we worry that life is never going to be stable again.  We focus so much on the uncertainty, we forget this is a part of life.  Life is always goi...


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Cutting Down The Trees

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Monday, June 20, 2011, In : Articles 
I was talking to a friend of mine today and we talking about someone we both knew.  They seemed to be having a hard time and just "can't see the forest from the trees".  
 
I said, "Yeah, sometimes people know what the trees are all about, they just don't want to cut them down."
 
The trees are comfortable - they shield you from what's outside, they kept you warm and you know exactly which way to turn in this forest that has grown around you.  Who really wants to clear a new path?
 
The forest does...

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Be Grateful

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Tuesday, June 7, 2011, In : Articles 
I have started looking back at the teachings of The Secret and one of the things I like was the concept of being grateful.
 
No matter what is going wrong, no matter what is happening, the theory is to be grateful for everything in your life, even the hard lessons.  
 
The thought is that being grateful will help you see what you already have in your life.  It shows you how abundant you really are.  It's not just material things but also your relationships, your talents and your gifts.
 
There have...

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Take Control of your Karma

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Wednesday, May 25, 2011, In : Articles 

John Lennon once sang “Instant Karma’s gonna get you…”   For years, people have said (usually when something bad happens in their lives), “Karma got me – what did I do?”

 

Karma gets blamed very easily for the bad things that happen in people’s lives but what about the good things?   What if situations are neither good nor bad – they just are?

 

One of the theories of Karma is that whatever you send out (energy, thoughts, ideas, etc) comes back - if you do good deeds and think g...


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If At First You Don't Succeed....

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Thursday, May 19, 2011, In : Articles 

How many times have you tried to accomplish something and it just wasn't working?  You've tried several times to get it done and it isn't coming together.

Would it be better to quit, to let it go?  

Many things don't happen on the first try.  For example, Alicia Keys laughed when she was referred to as an overnight sensation because she had been in the music business struggling for over seven years.  

Doors will shut.  Life will deal you with hard blows.  There is no doubt about it.   This i...


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Enjoy the Silence

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Wednesday, May 18, 2011, In : Articles 
Sometimes we say things that may hurt each other.  It may not be intentional but we feel the need to say what's on our mind at the given moment.
 
Is it necessary to tell someone what we think about them or what they're doing, especially when they haven't asked?
 
Honesty is important but there comes a time when you saying something will wound not heal.  I'm not talking about saying something to help someone learn, I'm talking about "yeah, remember when you did that?  It was a really bad/stupid/w...

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Which Voice Do I Listen To?

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Tuesday, May 17, 2011, In : Articles 
~One from the archives.  Enjoy!~
 
I am really blessed to have moments where I get an idea and then the possibilities start rushing through.  I wrote something recently that inspired me to start working on a coaching program to offer in 2011.  Off I go, generating all kinds of ideas and tasks to create this program.
 
While I'm in the frenzy of working, getting really excited at how the program is becoming a structure I can work in, thinking of documents to go with it, exercises, etc., all of a s...

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Problem Solver

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Monday, May 16, 2011, In : Articles 

Problem solving - a term that is thrown around a lot today.   How can this be made to work differently or properly?  Getting the task done and making the problem disappear (or even manageable) is an amazing skill.  At a job or in a career, this is usually one of the measurements of performance - how did you solve that problem?  Did you meet expectations or did you have a higher than usual skill set?

 

For some people, this isn't quite as easy, especially in their personal lives.  They may be a ...


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Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Saturday, May 14, 2011, In : Articles 

Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder.

When we judge based on how someone looks, we take away their personality, their talents, strengths, pains, triumphs - everything inside that makes them who they are.

Our eyes, our perception, only tell one part of the story.  We make a decision based on our own experiences and that is where someone can be unfairly and inaccurately categorized.

Green hair?  They must be a freak.
Piercings and Tattoos?  Total Degenerate.
Flannel shirt and jeans?  Unintelli...


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Slow Down

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Friday, May 13, 2011, In : Articles 
Back in the day, remember when a parent would yell "Slow Down!  You're going to hurt yourself!"  You might have thought "Oh, c'mon, I'm having fun!  I don't want to slow down!"

As we get older, we still are going pretty fast.  It may not be as fun as it used to be, though.  We have work, appointments, projects, driving people here, helping people there.  We are always on the go - there is not much that we can't do, sure, but do we have to do it all?
 
In the meantime, because we're at full speed...

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Gift Giving

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Wednesday, May 11, 2011, In : Articles 
~One from the archives.  Enjoy!~
 
My niece just turned 5 years old last week.  She is so cute.  As friends and family arrived at her house for her birthday, she informed them that it was her birthday (somehow we didn't know, I guess).  She also asked if her voice sounded "older", which we all agreed it did. 
 
I saw her opening her gifts, being very happy as she looked through her toys, clothes, jewelry - all the things a little one gets when we celebrate the life and birthday of a child. 
 
As we...

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It's My Karma? Nope, drop that spiritual crutch!

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Tuesday, May 10, 2011, In : Articles 
Karma can be a huge influence in our lives, especially for folks who are walking a spiritual path. We meet someone, end up in a crazy situation and then say "Oh, I'm working out my Karma with this person." And then that's it, we do nothing. How does that help out Karma? Doesn't that just create more Karma for us? 
 
It's easy to blame Karma for what we're experiencing. I know I've found myself into a not so pleasant "friendship" because I've not wanted to confront the person or situation. Now I...

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Teaching New Tricks?

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Monday, May 9, 2011, In : Articles 
I hear the phrase "you can't teach an old dog new tricks" when referring to people who don't want to change or learn something new.
 
I have to wonder why not?
 
I know when I pick up a book or take a class, I can feel my mind opening.  I look at things differently.  My collective knowledge is now expanded with this new information and I might change my thoughts on a thing or two.

Many people, though, think that they can't learn anything new.  That they are too set in their ways, too "old" or just...

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Thoughtfulness

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Saturday, May 7, 2011, In : Articles 

~One from the archives.  Enjoy!~


Here’s an interesting word to contemplate – thoughtfulness. What’s that mean, exactly? Maybe it means we can tear apart a subject with the best of them by looking at the topic deeply or asking a lot of questions.  There have been times that, in my discussions with people, we've had mind blowing revelations.  (You've had those experiences too, right?)

 

Or maybe it means taking other people’s feelings or reactions into account before doing something.  Ever...


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I Can't Hear You

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Friday, May 6, 2011, In : Articles 
There is more media around us that ever before.  The TV, the radio, our blackberry, the internet, ITunes, youtube, craigslist, google - just to name a few.  There are hundreds of websites out there for us to research things we want to know more about.  Multiple news sources, books, newspapers - tons of information at our fingertips.  Amazing, yes.
 
One of the things that found, though, with all these distractions around us, the voice inside us is barely at a whisper.
 
We are so used to be bomba...

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We Know More Than We Think

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Wednesday, May 4, 2011, In : Articles 
We are amazing people who can handle an amazing amount of information.  Our brains are built to sort, collect, categorize and, if necessary, discard information. 
 
There are times that we don't realize what we know.  For example, I was having a discussion with someone about her knowledge of tarot cards.  She told me that she didn't really know them well and she especially didn't know how to do multiple card readings.
 
So while we were talking, I asked gave her two cards and asked her to read th...

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The Power of Words

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Wednesday, March 23, 2011, In : Articles 
 
Words have so much power.  I think because we throw words around every day through discussions, presentations, reading, listening to talk shows, watching tv and so many other ways, words are around us constantly.  We forget sometimes they make an impact.
 
When we are having a discussion we have an option to hurt or heal.   We can say the truth with compassion or venom.  It is our choice.
 
I've recently had some intense conversations with several friends of mine.   They count on me to...

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They're Not Mad

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Tuesday, March 8, 2011, In : Articles 

Tonight, myself and several wonderful mediums and psychics went to dinner.  While there, we got into a discussion with our waitress about mediumship and she had a concern that seems to be on the mind of a lot of people when discussing folks that have passed over.

She was afraid the spirit on the other side was mad at her.

While I don't want to give the specifics of the story, she was afraid that one particular person was going to be angry about a situation.  She was hesitant to get a readi...


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The Mask

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Monday, March 7, 2011, In : Articles 
 
There is a mask that we show to the world.  We might quite possibly have several.  There is our work mask, our family mask, our friends' masks - different sizes, shapes, construction, moldings.  We create them to place over the softness and vulnerable sides of ourselves - our true face - to protect us.
 
The masks are hard, they are solid - conforming to our faces a little too well.  We hide parts of us inside, behind the mask, smothering the softness.  When we don't give these true part...

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Your Work

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Thursday, March 3, 2011, In : Articles 

I had dinner with my cousin the other night.  It was so nice to catch up with her.  We have a wonderful relationship where we can talk, laugh and cry about anything.

Somewhere in our conversation, we started talking about the difference between jobs and our work.  Most people have a job.  This is something that we need to have to have to pay the bills.  It can be good or bad.  It could even be something we could be very good at day-to-day but chances are it's not what we really want to be do...


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Setting Intentions

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Wednesday, March 2, 2011, In : Articles 
 
Intent is one of those terms we hear a lot in the crime and punishment shows.  "What was his/her intent?" 
 
In the spiritual sense, intent can be setting an idea before you do something such as magick, a reiki treatment, a reading, whatever.    This can actually be expanded to your day to day life, not just the spiritual realm.
 
For example, when you wake up in the morning, you can set an intention of having a great day.  Or, if you're going into a meeting, you can set the intention...

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Turn Down the Negative Volume

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Tuesday, March 1, 2011, In : Articles 

As I was talking to a friend the other night, she seemed to be going through a hard time.  She was saying all kinds of negative things about herself.  I said to her "There are plenty of people in line ready to beat you up - why do you want to be at the front of the line?"

 

If you think about it, when we go throughout our day, we do all kinds of things.  We get ready to leave the house, we design projects, we interact with all kinds of people, we do work, we drop the ball, we praise, we hu...


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Hope

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Tuesday, February 22, 2011, In : Articles 

~One from the archives.  Enjoy!~

I often wonder why things happen the way they do.   Watching the news can induce depression in 30 minutes or less.

The world can be full of cruel, nasty people and events.  We could sink down into the pit of despair very easily and walk around with the burden of the desperate energy of the world.

But then I think about hope.  Hope for the world to change and the potential for humans to change. 

A friend of mine just stepped into a new cha...


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Life, As We Know It

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Friday, February 11, 2011, In : Articles 

I was talking to my mom last night and she was relaying a conversation she was having with a friend.  Mom is a "Senior" - I like to refer to her as a "Crone" - as she said something that really struck me. 

Her friend said to her "Looking back on her life, I never expected to end up here."  Mom said to her "I don't think anyone expects to end up where we do." 

It made me pause.  Do any of us ever expect to end up where we do in life?  Somehow, our plans get derailed or changed, no ma...


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Cultivating the Spark

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Thursday, February 10, 2011, In : Articles 
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