Sometimes we say things that may hurt each
other. It may not be intentional but we feel the need to say what's on
our mind at the given moment. Is it necessary to tell someone what we
think about them or what they're doing, especially if they haven't asked?
There are times I have to bite my tongue
because, even though I have an opinion, it's not my place to put my thoughts on
someone else. It's not about me, it's about them and what they need.
Honesty is important but there comes a time when
saying something will wound not heal. I'm not talking about saying
something to help someone learn, I'm talking about "yeah, remember when
you did that? It was a really bad/stupid/weird thing to do."
or "Wow, I was so glad you broke up with that person. They were no
good for you - I never liked them."
What does that accomplish? How does
telling everyone every little thought we have about them, what we did, how we
felt at that moment, help? When it's not uplifting to them, it might not
be best to say it.
There are times when it's better to keep
quiet. Yes, you could let someone know what you think. You have
that power to form the words and tell them.
But before you do that, stop and think about
what impact it's having. Is it healing? Is it hurting?
Does it embarrass the person? Does it bring up back memories? Does it
make you feel powerful over them?
Be supportive if you are going to say something.
Think about what is to be said - can you reframe it into something positive?
If not, sometimes, it's just better to enjoy the silence.
What do you think about enjoying the silence?
Let me know - firstname.lastname@example.org
~Copyright 2013, Mary D'Alba (Spiritualitygirl)~
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