Enjoy the Silence

Posted by Mary D'Alba on Sunday, January 27, 2013 Under: Articles

Sometimes we say things that may hurt each other.  It may not be intentional but we feel the need to say what's on our mind at the given moment.  Is it necessary to tell someone what we think about them or what they're doing, especially if they haven't asked?


There are times I have to bite my tongue because, even though I have an opinion, it's not my place to put my thoughts on someone else.   It's not about me, it's about them and what they need.


Honesty is important but there comes a time when saying something will wound not heal.  I'm not talking about saying something to help someone learn, I'm talking about "yeah, remember when you did that?  It was a really bad/stupid/weird thing to do."  or "Wow, I was so glad you broke up with that person.  They were no good for you - I never liked them."


What does that accomplish?  How does telling everyone every little thought we have about them, what we did, how we felt at that moment, help?  When it's not uplifting to them, it might not be best to say it.


There are times when it's better to keep quiet.  Yes, you could let someone know what you think.  You have that power to form the words and tell them.


But before you do that, stop and think about what impact it's having.   Is it healing?  Is it hurting?  Does it embarrass the person?  Does it bring up back memories? Does it make you feel powerful over them?  


Be supportive if you are going to say something.  Think about what is to be said - can you reframe it into something positive?  If not, sometimes, it's just better to enjoy the silence.  


What do you think about enjoying the silence?  Let me know - mary@spiritualitygirl.com


~Copyright 2013, Mary D'Alba (Spiritualitygirl)~

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